Just a quick update regarding my problem last week...

For any of you who wondered what decision i came to, i said no. They weren't allowed to sleep together. On friday J,N,A ( his girlfriend) and two of his mates all crashed in the living room watching movies until stupid o'clock. Stepping over festering teenagers the next mrning was less than pleasant -not to mention funky-Pheww! Sat the boys were in J's room n A slept in R's bed. There was much pulling of the face at first but when i took her to the station to go home they both admitted that they'd had fun anyway and the not sleeping together hadn't been the hardship that they thought it might've been. I was so relieved. when i'd picked her up from the station i'd told her the house rules, hugging and kissing (within reason) not a problem but they weren't to have sex in my home or there'd not be another visit, J wasn't happy i'd said that to her but as i pointed out to him - and her - if they're big enough to think about having sex then they're big enough for me to speak to them about it. They also got the contraception talk too.

Ifeel that the weekend actually went better because i'd made the rules clear. It's my home and my rules, it's very rare i take a stand on anything so i think the fact that i did told them that i was deadly serious. all of you kind people who took the time to share their thought, thankyou so much, i really appreciated it...